Are you choosing suffering over happiness?

Dear Friend,,

Who is responsible for how you experience happiness on any subject?

Oftentimes, we adapt the perception that happiness is generated through external forces out of our control. In my experience and observation this viewpoint has been the very dis-empowering obstacle to accessing happiness. We make it someone else’s responsible and feel our unfavorable experiences are not of our own doing. You may reflect on any subject in your life and you don’t like how it is, as a result you TRY to change it, and still you end up with the same result. Opening way to creating change; physically, emotionally, financially etc begins by accepting your part in the situation...by taking full ownership of your choices!

You are your only potential for happiness on any subject!

Your willingness to do this step allows you to become neutral which lines you up with “You as the solution” and will demonstrate how “You are participating” within the Law of Attraction.

Happiness is an inside job and if you're not in that state of grace then you are not focused in the right place! The solution is in your choice to become disciplined with your mind's energy focus. The first step is to accept that you are already creating your current experience with your “conditioned” mind energy focus.

When people are first asked to do this, they usually need some time to process the information they have just received. We all have a tendency to get defensive when we are made to look at our own responsibility in experiences that feel bad to us and taking full ownership forces us to do just that. Within the accepting of ourselves we accept our power as creators. This level of self acceptance allows us to line up with our inner source of power consciously and change our conditions. Only then can we begin to create more favorable experiences. This is the basis for the law of attraction and self love.

Let’s take a deeper look at the impact of how we “Think” and how we “Feel” about accepting full responsibility of our experiences. We usually don't have much difficulty accepting responsibility when it comes to the experiences we find pleasing and wish to continue or grow in our lives. The biggest opportunity is when it comes to accepting our part in creating the experiences we do not like. In our resistance we split our energy/focus away from our source or inner-beings perspective on the issue.

What happens to us next is two fold:

The first part is that we tend to Think that if we accept responsibility it makes it our fault, that we are somehow to blame. This makes us Feel a lot of guilt or shame. These emotions in return make us Feel bad about ourselves; if we are responsible for creating this, surely we are not very good people? This is not how the law of attraction works, it doesn't care about good or bad. It only brings you what you order through your focused beliefs on an issue. Your source connection does not have rules or big expectations of others. Your ego or disconnected-personality does and usually beats the drum of suffering which is a state of "no source connection or wellness mentally, emotionally, etc". I often have clients who insist on beating the drum of "but what about my rights as a human to suffer over conditions I do not like, I am entitled to feel bad; after all, so and so is wrong, I am right and justice must be served" or “I am a good person and do not deserve this; I never would have done that, and so it goes". Of course they can choose a split perspective on any issue or they can understand that the belief in the value of suffering, the perspective of good/bad, right or wrong on any issue is the cause for disconnect and experiences that are not
favorable. Or, they can accept the creation at hand and intentionally
shift their minds perspective on the subject creating new and more favorable conditions and future outcomes.

The second reason why we refuse to accept responsibility for the negative feelings we experience is a little bit more complex, as it deals with our sense of entitlement and anger. If someone hurt us, physically or emotionally, we want to continue to hold them responsible, so we can keep alive the anger. A lot of us feel that if we let go and no longer had blame over the person who we perceived hurt us, we are
somehow saying that what they did was acceptable. Taking responsibility for what you feel does not mean that nothing wrong was done to you; it only means that you were the one who created the environment where it could possibly happen. It does not mean that what happened wasn't wrong for you, but by holding on to your anger and blame you do not harm them; you are hurting yourself. You also need to realize that if you fail to see how you unintentionally were responsible for using the law of attraction to attract the situation, it means that you are still seeing yourself as a defenseless victim. As long as YOU continue to Feel and Think as a victim, you will continue to attract those kinds of situations to you.

The law of attraction is not good or bad. Just like gravity, it does not pass judgment on what you are attracting. You are not good or bad. Just like Your inner-being, you have a neutral position on any person, place or situation. You're a creator of life experiences that help you to discern your preference of experience. Your mind is the tool to bring your focus of desired experience into creation. Let go of your past and
accept your own part in what happened there.

Your life is an on-going process and series of choices made by you and you alone. It does not have to be hard! I can support you, there are many processes, systems and methods in place to assist you with accepting your role in the creation of your life. It takes a disciplined focus, commitment of your will, and cultivation of your minds energy to
stay motivated and on track in realizing you're the solution for your happiness.

You are your only potential for happiness on any subject!

Will you take full ownership today?
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