“A flower does not compare itself to the flower next to. It just blooms.”

Dear Friend,

Do you compare yourself with others?

I do, sometimes it's helpful when it inspires growth in me and opens optimal potential within my experiences.

However, there is the danger of comparing myself to others in an unhealthy manner and then I find myself slipping into thoughts and feelings of despair. Like a weed, it can quickly become rooted. I begin to spiral out of alignment with my core connection, necessary growth, and path of least resistance to my optimal life. When this happens, it can contribute to feeling anxiety, depression, shame, envy, leading to self-criticism, lack of self-worth and it rapidly undermines my confidence.

Does this sound familiar?

In the evolutionary framework of survival, having a mental ability to compare our capabilities with others', or to sort out whether we might be acceptable to another social group was necessary for our growth as humans. It makes a lot of sense, especially if the foundation of our decisions are locked into “life or death ” situations. 

However, in the present times, this outcome from the past can tip from being helpful to our survival to being unhelpful to our daily life. This learned habit to judge ourselves in comparison to others is hardwired in our brain, a prejudice against ourselves that was trained into us since childhood. We pay more attention to what we see as our own weaknesses about us, we compare and measure ourselves negatively. We often then drop into a pattern of despair and stop all forward progression. The more you put your attention on something, the more it tends to show up giving us evidence that what we think is true.

When we learn to take a more balanced view and consciously look for and acknowledge the positives about us, receive the compliments when they arrive, lean into the affirming praise, we begin to take on a more balanced perspective about ourselves.

We begin to free up our energy and feel better, entering back into "our unique rhythm and flow" with life.

When we commit to learning how to manage unhelpful thoughts, we begin to understand our mind is defending its own prejudice against itself. These are simply thoughts and not facts. You can learn to let these go and redirect your focus building a positive prosperous flow to your optimal life experience.

One way to shift out of the comparing and despairing cycle and come into a more balanced view is to adopt a mindfulness practice. Try this simple conscious breathing practice ~
4/7/8 breathing practice to begin shifting your perspective now.
Find yourself in a relaxed position
Close your eyes
Inhale fully
On the exhale -> gently place the tip of your tongue on the roof your mouth behind your two front teeth
Inhale slowly for 4 counts
Hold your breath for 7 counts
Exhale slowly for 8 counts
Repeat for 4 cycles (no more than 4 cycles in one practice)
Click here for a guided MP4 version to help make this a daily practice!


Do you want help with shifting your tendency to compare and create spiral despair thoughts and feelings?

I would love to help you!

For the rest of April through May 15th I’m offering a 60 min intuitive coaching spotlight session to help you let go of your habit to compare and despair. I will assist you in building a new habit that supports growth and positive thinking focused on your optimal life.

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I look forward to connecting with you soon!
Love, Cheryl


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Dear Friend,

Your Invited to a FREE Webinar on 
Wednesday, May 1, 2019!!

Introduction to Balancing Your Masculine and Feminine Energies to Align with Your Best Self / Higher Self. 

Are you overworking your masculine energy? Are you a little "too" in touch with your feminine energy? What does that even mean?

These terms have nothing to do with gender.  Everyone, whether male or female, is composed of both energies.
I often refer to them as "Yin and Yang, a concept used within Taoism." Yin refers to the feminine energies in life, and Yang refers to the masculine energies in life. Giving (doing) is an action of our masculine and receiving (being) is an action of our feminine. A balance of both energies is when we feel harmonious within ourselves. It's simple, yet oddly challenging to achieve.

Look at your typical day, you'll probably notice there are times when you are very action-oriented.  At other times, you'll notice you're not really doing much of anything, but instead, you're simply being.
These two activities - doing and being - are the physical expression of the masculine and feminine energies.  One is motion and momentum oriented, the other is stillness and feeling oriented. One is the essence of creating and making energy, providing the spark of life force.  The other allows the creation to manifest by holding the fertile space needed for the matter to take form, providing the womb space for living things to grow into being. This is true for both men and women!
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When it comes to the quality of our intimacy, life success and overall wellbeing, it's essential to ensure you're bringing an equal balance of feminine and masculine energy to your life. Once you learn to harmonize these energies, you will find freedom within you that you have never experienced before.

If you:

• Have you ever felt misunderstood or been told you are too aggressive, rigid, controlling, risk-averse?
• Are you too emotional, lack follow through, find it difficult to make decisions or no matter how hard you try you cannot manifest your deepest desires?
• You often feel overlooked, ignored or your personal relationships aren't feeling vibrant, healthy or alive?
• Do you experience high levels of anxiety, an eating disorder or insomnia? Do you take medication for any of these?

 
It may be that your masculine and feminine energy expressions are out of balance.
That's why I created a FREE webinar, to help you better understand yourself as an energetic being!
Please join me!

Love, 
Cheryl

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​"Love is what you are born with. Fear is what you learn. The Spiritual Journey is the unlearning of fear and the acceptance of love back in our hearts.”
Marianne Williamson 

Dear Friend,

Today clients and I talked about feeling terrified and tethered to deep shadow conditioning.

Feeling terrified is a common theme in my personal evolution and that of my clients.

Can you relate?

I believe terror is one of the humanities shared core issues.

Terror can cause us to expand and create medicine within us OR contract and create poison within us.

The poisons "affect" results in the many manifestations of “exclusion”; such as isolation, separation, rejection, depression, shame, humiliation, addiction, violence, disease, prejudices, preferences, and judgement to name a few.

Terror is a core feeling that is ignited within us during intense negative childhood trauma (experiences/conditioning
with family, community, society, or our ancestral lineage). Often, the root cause for this terror is unconscious and paralyzes us from knowing healthy growth and full expression.

The moment of conditioning happened when you were taught to override your natural impulses as a child to remain “safe and secure”. As a result, you learned to defer to your outer world for direction instead of your inner connection as the Source of Life that you are naturally. For some of us, this conditioning began while we were still in the womb.

This reoccurring moment of conditioning reinforces a feeling of “separation” from the Source of Love that we are and causes us to contract, recoil in terror. Building walls of protection with layers of stories that we believe will keep us safe from the overwhelming shame and humiliation of our fullest expression-being seen, heard and integral to life.

We silently suffer.

We settle into a conditioned and familiar way of being telling ourselves its good enough and that we really don’t need any more than what we have already experienced. All the while we are suffering mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually. Some of us learn to cope with life and others to be continuously overwhelmed by life. This unconscious stance never allows the essential shift within our hearts and mind necessary to make us whole in our Source Energy of Love and Life. 

To uncoil from the shadows and grip of terror we must consciously pause and feel into the space it resides within us. Become curious about its root cause. Question if we are still living in the same conditions once put upon us. Do we now have the power to choose differently, to trust? Is it possible to use the feeling of terror as usable power to grow us into our fullest potential?

We can choose to not feel our feelings and remain stuck, recycling in terror. Or we can choose to feel our feelings, trust and take inspired actions. Even though we feel afraid our personal power allows us to use the intensity of inspired action to liberate us. We remember to trust our natural impulses again and our instincts realign us with Source Energy.

When we choose to allow the experiences that caused us to recoil in terror to be medicine for our healing and growth, we align with the love that we are and know our essential offering to humanity.

To begin today to alchemize terror’s grip and be set free turn within. Pause, stand where you are, ground into the earth, take a deep breath, and relax into Earth Mother. Place your attention on your breath, consciously breathe, slowing down your breath. Inhale fully for the count of 2, exhale fully for the count of 4. This shifts you from fear (fight and flight condition) to a relaxed, restore and renew condition. You’re opening the space within your mind and nervous system to receive the wisdom of your hearts knowing that all is well now. Stay with your breath and the cradle of the Earth, feel your feelings until they release, and you feel relief within your emotional body. Integrate this release with your breaths inhale and exhale, this rewires your brain and nervous system with the medicine of Love and opens your mind to new possibilities.

Are you ready to heal and to learn how to trust in your natural impulses and instincts?

Are you ready to fully realign with who you are as Source Energy?

Are you ready to stop playing small in your life and live the life that you silently yearn for?

I am ready to assist you with making the necessary shifts within yourself that makes what ever is important for you to address possible!

Contact me now on 978-378-0506 or [email protected].

Love, Cheryl

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