Inspiration to help you find your own way
Inspiration to help you find your own way
What do I mean by a Time Out to Tune In? It is a conscious decision to step away from your regular flow of things with the intention to Tune In to what thoughts are creating your current reality. Thought forms from a conditioned past or thoughts intentionally influenced in the present or fear thoughts intended to manipulate and control an unknown future. The value of a Time Out is priceless and necessary when things are chaotic or calm. It is an important practical step. Everything I have learned in becoming a Mind Master and Blended Being (meaning my higher-self and personality are working in partnership) has taught me that this action is most beneficial to our minds integration of the new information, all our emotions supportive of our Inner-Beings/ Higher-Self evolution and our desired life's experience.
Wow - for some this may seem like a lot to comprehend, fortunately, we do not need to know how it all works. We just need to allow it to happen. Basically, our thoughts are energy and are seeking to balance and forward move themselves in harmony with the Law Of Attraction. We assist this process favorably when we focus our minds energies, thoughts, words, and actions toward our desired outcome coupled with staying Tuned In to your source connection (guidance system,Inner-Being, Universe, God, Higher Power etc). Staying Tuned In to our source channel is similar to getting the latest news broadcast on current events in your life. Like checking the flow of the morning traffic on the radio to know the quickest route possible to your destination.
You see, humans are creative by nature and desire more in all areas. It is natural to our state of being to desire more; more health, more wealth, more loving relationships, any thing that supports us in having more and feeling our connection to source. Moreover, our source wants us to have more for it desires creation and connection to us, which can only happen through conscious choice to connect and Tune In! Much like making time to be present with a good friend, child or lover.
What we love is how we feel when we feel connected to our Inner-Being. There is not one person, place, situation or thing that gives us good feelings and any effort to make it that way is fruitless and goes against the laws of creation! Our own ability to feel good first ATTRACTS to us people, places, situations and things that vibrationally align with us in our good feelings and focused intentions. That's creation, a partnering of energies that adds unto the whole! That's why we LOVE to fall in love!!! There is nothing more delicious than when we first meet that person who "lines-up" with us in our desire to create in the same way! Yummy!
The urgency you feel for change, that ache in your heart, that restlessness is the stirring of your own creative life force calling YOU to be, do and have more. Notice I said it is calling YOU, not anyone else to become more in order for you to have the life you desire. That is why the only way to experience change is to be that change first which begins with your choice to master your own mind's energies and partner yourself with the energy that creates universes - YOU.
How do you partner yourself with the energies that create universes? YOU choose to Tune In to YOURSELF, source energy, inner-being, etc. Let the LOVE affair begin. HA :) - the essence of Self Love perhaps? This part of you is unlimited and unencumbered by the minds energy unfocused and unconditioned. Yummy! It has the bird's eye view of your life and knows what you do not yet know about all things. It knows the best and fastest way to your desired result. This Time Out to Tune In creates the space for new thoughts and Inspired Actions that supports your new beliefs, keeps you on track, and focused in the most beneficial way toward the change you desire to experience! Once you do this, you open the opportunity to STOP creating from unproductive past patterns and STOP manipulating from an attempt to control your future. You harness the insight of your NOW thinking and source connection. Unproductive energy becomes empowered and controlling energy becomes creative! Right on, now you have secured your opportunity to create YOUR desired universe! Bravo!
Taking Time Out to Tune In is the simple part of the manifesting equation. Make the
decision often and follow through! Hey - no excuses! Do not wait for the universe
to invite you with an unexpected kick in the butt!
We all know the benefits of the action list below. They all assist greatly, if allowed,
with a shift in perspective and a "good feeling" forward moving idea from our
Ø breath work
Ø time in nature
Ø inspiring books
Ø music, water, animal companions, dancing
The more challenging part is keeping the commitment to focus your minds energy
and to surrender your personality to the following of your own guidance system
and source inspiration in the NOW!
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Who is responsible for how you experience happiness on any subject?
Oftentimes, we adapt the perception that happiness is generated through external forces out of our control. In my experience and observation this viewpoint has been the very dis-empowering obstacle to accessing happiness. We make it someone else’s responsible and feel our unfavorable experiences are not of our own doing. You may reflect on any subject in your life and you don’t like how it is, as a result you TRY to change it, and still you end up with the same result. Opening way to creating change; physically, emotionally, financially etc begins by accepting your part in the situation...by taking full ownership of your choices!
You are your only potential for happiness on any subject!
Your willingness to do this step allows you to become neutral which lines you up with “You as the solution” and will demonstrate how “You are participating” within the Law of Attraction.
Happiness is an inside job and if you're not in that state of grace then you are not focused in the right place! The solution is in your choice to become disciplined with your mind's energy focus. The first step is to accept that you are already creating your current experience with your “conditioned” mind energy focus.
When people are first asked to do this, they usually need some time to process the information they have just received. We all have a tendency to get defensive when we are made to look at our own responsibility in experiences that feel bad to us and taking full ownership forces us to do just that. Within the accepting of ourselves we accept our power as creators. This level of self acceptance allows us to line up with our inner source of power consciously and change our conditions. Only then can we begin to create more favorable experiences. This is the basis for the law of attraction and self love.
Let’s take a deeper look at the impact of how we “Think” and how we “Feel” about accepting full responsibility of our experiences. We usually don't have much difficulty accepting responsibility when it comes to the experiences we find pleasing and wish to continue or grow in our lives. The biggest opportunity is when it comes to accepting our part in creating the experiences we do not like. In our resistance we split our energy/focus away from our source or inner-beings perspective on the issue.
What happens to us next is two fold:
The first part is that we tend to Think that if we accept responsibility it makes it our fault, that we are somehow to blame. This makes us Feel a lot of guilt or shame. These emotions in return make us Feel bad about ourselves; if we are responsible for creating this, surely we are not very good people? This is not how the law of attraction works, it doesn't care about good or bad. It only brings you what you order through your focused beliefs on an issue. Your source connection does not have rules or big expectations of others. Your ego or disconnected-personality does and usually beats the drum of suffering which is a state of "no source connection or wellness mentally, emotionally, etc". I often have clients who insist on beating the drum of "but what about my rights as a human to suffer over conditions I do not like, I am entitled to feel bad; after all, so and so is wrong, I am right and justice must be served" or “I am a good person and do not deserve this; I never would have done that, and so it goes". Of course they can choose a split perspective on any issue or they can understand that the belief in the value of suffering, the perspective of good/bad, right or wrong on any issue is the cause for disconnect and experiences that are not
favorable. Or, they can accept the creation at hand and intentionally
shift their minds perspective on the subject creating new and more favorable conditions and future outcomes.
The second reason why we refuse to accept responsibility for the negative feelings we experience is a little bit more complex, as it deals with our sense of entitlement and anger. If someone hurt us, physically or emotionally, we want to continue to hold them responsible, so we can keep alive the anger. A lot of us feel that if we let go and no longer had blame over the person who we perceived hurt us, we are
somehow saying that what they did was acceptable. Taking responsibility for what you feel does not mean that nothing wrong was done to you; it only means that you were the one who created the environment where it could possibly happen. It does not mean that what happened wasn't wrong for you, but by holding on to your anger and blame you do not harm them; you are hurting yourself. You also need to realize that if you fail to see how you unintentionally were responsible for using the law of attraction to attract the situation, it means that you are still seeing yourself as a defenseless victim. As long as YOU continue to Feel and Think as a victim, you will continue to attract those kinds of situations to you.
The law of attraction is not good or bad. Just like gravity, it does not pass judgment on what you are attracting. You are not good or bad. Just like Your inner-being, you have a neutral position on any person, place or situation. You're a creator of life experiences that help you to discern your preference of experience. Your mind is the tool to bring your focus of desired experience into creation. Let go of your past and
accept your own part in what happened there.
Your life is an on-going process and series of choices made by you and you alone. It does not have to be hard! I can support you, there are many processes, systems and methods in place to assist you with accepting your role in the creation of your life. It takes a disciplined focus, commitment of your will, and cultivation of your minds energy to
stay motivated and on track in realizing you're the solution for your happiness.
You are your only potential for happiness on any subject!
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'There is nothing so stable as change.”
The Allergic Pagan
Happy Autumn Equinox!
September 23rd, 2019 is the beginning of our Autumn season here in the Northern Hemisphere. I am getting ready to do an Autumn Equinox ritual.
The Autumn Equinox is a meaningful time of year to honor your harvest whether that be a real harvest of the things planted in your garden or of the harvest of effort, and internal growth torward your life path intentions set earlier in the year.
My own personal growth has been on overdrive this year. When I think back to the issues and limiting beliefs, I was dealing with at the start of the year I’m amazed and grateful at how far I’ve come.
The change in seasons are key points in the cycle of life in nature and within this cycle many ancient cultures perceived a powerful deeper message for humanity.
Indigenous cultures recognized earth- based wisdom and understood that the four focal points of the year; the Winter Solstice, Spring Equinox, Summer Solstice, and Autumn Equinox, illuminated stages of an inner spiritual journey, a spiritual cycle that the individual takes within themselves.
As I have consciously linked my awareness to nature cycles, my understanding of my own cycles has deepened. My seasonal rituals have become a great way to reflect, learn and grow from my passage through days, months and years. When I participate in my own consciousness this way, I develop new skills in awareness that affect every choice I make in life.
Below is a simple ritual I’m going to do to assist with letting go of what has been that no longer serves me to open space for all the awesome stuff coming to and through me now!
Ritual for the Autumn Equinox
This ritual is perfect for releasing the past, clearing negative beliefs, feelings and / or situations in preparation to welcome in the new. Use your intuition to add to and change this ritual as you feel guided to. Have fun staying connected and focused on the subtle energies within and all around you!
1. Find a quiet place to do this ritual where you won’t be disturbed. Light the candle and place it next to your bowl of water.
2. Meditate holding your crystal for a few minutes to help clear and release your mind. Contemplate on what’s ready to go.
3. In your journal write down what you want to release from within ad all around you.
4. Place your flowers and herbs into the water.
5. Use your finger and stir the herb water around in a clockwise direction 5 times to generate some energy.
6. State what you want to release out loud 3 times. Fold the paper up and place it into the water.
7. Swirl the water around again with your finger 7 – 9 times. Watch how the paper gets soggier and soggier.
8. Take the bowl and hold it up against your hearts center. When you feel ready, state out loud “I release this” and dump the water out. You can dump the water outside, in the sink or in the bath.
9. Throw the piece of paper away. Discard the herbs in the garden or outside.
10. Express gratitude for the completion.
11. Keep the candle burning for as long as possible, ideally until it burns out naturally.
May the blessings be!
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You have the inherent right and duty to design and create your life.
Barbara Marciniack Path of Empowerment
Your permission only is needed on your Spiritual Path of discovery and liberation!
We are always changing, and those who are awake and aware of their subtle shifts and changes have the choice to relax and allow the inner transformation to shape the outer realty. When this happens we often find that our former self-made agreements and decisions have served their purpose and do not align with our new views, needs and desires for expression. This can be very uncomfortable and create discomfort for self and others.
You are ultimately responsible for cherishing and valuing your life.
The issue of resistance to "adjusting" is in the mind and it's okay to reassess, say no, let go and rise to higher planes of manifested reality where the people, places, and situations exist for your next accelerated growth. Accepting responsibility for your life and relinquishing the stance of victimhood will free your thought patterns and untie the knots of powerless thinking. The more you know about who you are, and the more you are willing to see your life as a significant and purposeful expression of consciousness, the greater the involvement will be.
The key to transformation is knowing that nothing is fixed and always in movement.
Growth is the outcome whether slow or rapid. It's very necessary to know how to release, be fluid, flowing, flexible and adaptable. Only you know when your mind resists what the body, heart, and spirit have come to accept. Clear and transparent Communication with Source, Self and Other is what's necessary to find the alignment for the changes to serve the liberation of the old and celebration of the new and higher choices and agreements to arise.
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"Joy lives concealed in grief."
I hope you are enjoying the peak of summer energy!
We are in the high heats here in AZ, we naturally draw in to stay cool or travel to cooler summer climates near bodies of water. I’ve been turned in more than out, lots of shifts and changes in my world. I’ve had three of my four long-time canine companions’ transition in the last 7 months; Hannah 13, Angel 11 and Makena 12. In June my feline companion went missing for 21 days and returned. Makena my 12-year-old male most recently transitioned, 2 ½ weeks ago. It was the straw that broke my heart open the widest and I spiraled into grief. What was once a family of 7 is now a family of 4. It has been a lot of transformation in my heart and in our home.
Grief is a funny thing; it can completely debilitate us and/or it can completely liberate us. For me, grief is my response to a broken bond of belonging. Whether through the loss of my family, a loved one, relationship, business partnership, marriage, a way of life, a job, my youth, a circle of friends, or the path I didn’t take, or a long-held belief, my grief has been a reaction to being “separated from what I have cherished and loved”.
I’ve had clients grieve the loss of faith in their religion, unresolved childhood pain, loss of a parent, marriages ending, infidelity, miscarriage, abortion, children leaving home, addiction, a change in health, lifestyle or career change, an absence of the family they never had….and more.
Grief is not forever, but it feels like it when you suppress the feeling and keep it under a layer of protection and denial. Unconsciously it can become the foundation from which we create our life, wearing pain like a shroud shadowing our ability to connect to anything else. A constant knot of nervous energy keeps us feeling separated from our peace, ease, happiness, and genuine well-being.
In my experience, grief is an expression of healing and setting in motion authentic spiritual alchemy assisting my self-evolution. I’m grateful for my spiritual tools and practices. Through ceremony, ritual, meditation, breathwork, nature, and journaling I allow myself space and grace to feel my grief deeply and source the medicine of the sadness, rage, shame and guilt I felt from my broken bonds of belonging. The sadness, rage, shame, and guilt are themes in the experience of grief not just for me, but for my clients and collective humanity.
Throughout my life grief has played an essential role in my coming undone from previous attachments creating a necessary expansion for new beginnings. The journey “through” exposes new conditions within me and it begins to move when I can compassionately see and feel into the experience of grief. Often my tears rise, streaming down my cheeks, riding on awful moans of despair. It is in these moments that my tears and sounds are the healing medicine for deep change within my body and mind. Often current events trigger healing I didn’t even know I needed, it's like finding a soul growth treasure chest laying deep in my body’s cellular memory that I’ve worked so hard to keep closed from earlier experiences in life. This opening creates a perspective shift within my awareness and understanding of a bigger picture.
While my grief looks and feels like an expression of suffering it is also serving my clarity and higher self’s acknowledgment of what I value and hold most dear to me. My connection to what is most dear serves as a catalyst to know how to move forward. My knowing is medicine guiding me, reminding of continual eternity and my capacity to create within the web of life.
I am feeling much better, clearer and happier than before I was polished and made whole through grief. Something has released in me freeing up my capacity for love.
I’m connected to the energy signatures of my companions in the life force that runs through all life seen and unseen. My true belonging! I feel them in the rays of the sun, the flight of a hawk, cardinal at the bird feeder, running water in our creek, breeze on my cheek or a lone young deer that has come up to visit with me.
I will meet up with them again on the breath of new puppies to come soon. We will begin again on a new adventure showing ourselves the truth of continual eternity and love never-ending!
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“Journaling is like whispering to one's self and listening at the same time”
One of the most powerful tools my client’s and I use for Self-Evolution is a Journal.
The benefits of journaling differ from person to person. There seem to be, however, general themes that are attractive in the collective unconscious. Many of us, my clients and myself, look to daily entries of personal experiences to gain personal support and inspiration.
Here are my 11 Soul Evolutionary Benefits to Keeping a Journal:
💮 Maintaining a journal is a natural way to exercise the brain. When we make regular entries, we’re taking time to develop writing and communication skills that are very valuable in everyday interactions. (Like writing this blog!) This mental exercise also helps our thoughts flow more freely and gain momentum.
💮 Creativity is another benefit to consider. Creativity is an important aspect of journaling. The right hemisphere of the brain is associated with visual, imaginative and intuitive facets of thought. When we take time to write, we free the right hemisphere’s creative mechanism. The ideal entry will be one that puts the inner editor on hold. Thoughts and ideas should flow freely and naturally.
💮 Self-awareness is developed through the uninhibited nature of this form of writing. Most of us often create different faces to meet various circumstances. We tend to recreate in distinct situations, including the work environment, the community and even at home while participating in our intimate relationships. Journaling helps bring self-awareness of our different faces into perspective.
💮 The process of keeping a journal helps us recognize the various aspects of our unique personalities. Growing self-awareness is a powerful force that can lead to even greater benefits in the future. Gaining insight into the Self is among the most important aspects to Self- Evolution.
💮 Our ability to set priorities is another end-result of journaling. Once we get a grasp on thoughts and emotions that are filtered through our personal experience, we begin to gain control of them. The process eventually leads to a greater understanding of what is and what is not important. I personally find this use of journaling very beneficial to my personality!
💮 Our ability to see the past more clearly is another excellent advantage to keeping a journal. The pages of our past can be revisited with a fresh perspective. It can be very surprising how much our understanding of an event changes over a relatively short period of time. My clients often find great moments of epiphany when rethinking and rereading entries. They also become more aware of their own personal growth and achievements.
💮 Journaling is a fantastic problem-solving resource. The approach of using entries to come up with various solutions to challenges is a little different than approaches for self-awareness and growth. We can choose temporary brainstorming techniques that offer viable solutions to problems.
💮 “Variety” is another very supportive value of journaling. We can choose the kind of entries we want to make. Common choices include brainstorming sessions, automatic writing and reflective notes. Personal journal entries can be made upon inspiration, when we first awake or right before falling asleep. I choose to do a combination of these, depending on my focus.
💮 Purge! Many people find it helpful to place negative thoughts and feelings down on paper. Once the negative energy is placed on the page, we are free to let it go! This practice also works well when dealing with anger towards another individual. Purge the negativity and work towards a constructive approach!
💮 Communication with others is another aspect of keeping a journal. Those who work with life coaches can find a wealth of resources for sessions. Journaling can help us tap into our fears and dreams, helping our coach gain insight through entries we choose to share.
💮 Finally, journaling reduces stress! It provides time for us to meditate. The process helps make the positive forces in our lives surface and it helps bring the destructive patterns into light. The result of personal journaling is a new perspective on how we can become Self- Aware and take personal responsibility of many aspects of our lives!
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All relationships are informing and assisting us with a better understanding of how we are doing in our core connection
- the quality of intimacy between our personality and Higher Self.”
Our relationships are the path for Self-Evolution and offer the conditions we need to grow and deepen in our core connection to – health, wealth, happiness and well being! Our primary relationship is between our personality and higher, broader Source/Spirit self. All other relationships are informing and assisting us with a better understanding of how we are doing in our core connection – a mirroring of the quality of intimacy between our personality and Higher Self. All relationships include an interweaving of mental, emotional, physical and spiritual energies that playout with people, health, money, and various human experiences. And…ALL relationships hold the potential to help us see and love our shadow patterns and creations as well as our light patterns and creations - this is the path of self-awareness on our journey of growth. The path of self-awareness is the evolution up the scale of consciousness, knowing one’s self as Love and healing one’s self-esteem through relating. When we accept this as a truth, life naturally begins to become easier and more satisfying on our journey of Self-Evolution.
There are many ways we can travel on the path and engage in growing our core connection as there are many teachers, philosophies, practices, and tools available to assist us on the path of self-awareness. There is not a right way or a wrong way – they all have value. The variety of choices helps to serve us in deepening connection to our core perspectives. I choose to practice conscious breathing, meditation, sound, movement, Tantra and massage as ways to nurture, ground and expand in my Source connection and consciously participate in my Self-Evolution. I engage my Alchemical and Shamanic principles, tools, rituals, and ceremonies to focus and manifest broader perspectives. I partner with coaches, teachers, the natural world and like-minded practitioners to uplift and inspire me.
Deepening your intimate Source connection is a path and journey, how you travel is a personal responsibility. You can begin now by taking a few minutes to relax, close your eyes and tune into your breath. Breathe in a mindful manner, tracking your inhale and exhale. Deepen your connection to your breath -- inhale peace, exhale Joy -- ♥
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We cannot selectively numb emotions, when we numb the painful emotions, we also numb the positive emotions.”
How do I ‘feel’ my connection with Source?
By being willing to FEEL ALL MY FEELINGS!
This is a revised version from a blog I wrote in February of 2017. I felt is was time to revisit this aspect of our lives.
My true feelings are beyond what I was taught and conditioned to think of as ‘feelings’. Now when I am feeling a true feeling it has a palpable sensation of flow, vibration and brilliant light-filled aliveness. Feeling the realness of my emotions is experiencing the presence of my own resonance.
There was a time when I did not want to feel. I was afraid of being hurt again. I thought, ‘if I do not feel, I will stop my – pain’. I would avoid my feelings by pushing them away and retreating into my head. My imagination would then be sourced in an unhealthy manner to make up a story, a drama which I believed was real. I would get so caught up in the story and its ‘emotions’ I would think I was ‘feeling’. I was actually in a disempowering emotional state by running narratives that kept me isolated from my truth. This learned strategy served only to move me away from my real feelings and into thinking feelings, with the goal of not actually feeling them. In my pattern of telling a story and thinking my feelings both would persist. I could not find a sense of release and much needed relief – the expansion or opening in which my perceived issue could resolve into greater awareness. For a long time, this pattern caused me – to move away from experiencing my true feelings, while thinking I was feeling them. In my healing process, I learned that thinking feelings instead of truly feeling them recycles in a repetitive pattern. I would think the ‘perception of a feeling’ was the same thing as ‘feeling the feeling’. Instead of feeling, I was only engaging in ideas of things, both negative and positive.
In her book, and …, Anamika writes:
“When truly feeling we are connecting with the energy of an emotion. Then feelings move through us with relative ease and rapidity. The beautiful energy of real emotion moves, breathes, and is alive. It’s an entirely different sensation than what’s produced by mental ‘emotions’ or drama. Consciously feeling feelings is not terrifying. Even real intense grief, fear, and dread feel good, as does excitement, when we let ourselves feel them. Fear is not bad, and excitement is not good.”
For me, when I am not willing to feel my true feelings I contract, shut down, get walled off into a space where I swim in intense overwhelm and dramatically overreact. At the same time, I build barriers and shut out people, places and situations necessary to my well being. I reaffirm with my self-talk, ‘I cannot help how I feel’, only perpetuating my disempowering emotional state. In this pattern, I activate many stress responses in my body – Ugh! – and stress responses in my relationships.
Now that I know this, I willingly slow down and take time to drop out of my head into my body and heart, the spaces of true feeling(s), accepting and allowing the feeling to flow.Emotions like fear, anger, and sorrow are natural emotions very different from disempowering emotional states of outrage, depression or anxiety.
Every emotion, sensation and true feeling is valuable. There is no order of importance to our feelings. All of them are of equal importance when we allow ourselves to feel them!Feeling my full range of emotions empowers and deepens my connection to Source.
To support my experience of ‘feeling’ I make sacred time alone to be with my feelings a priority just as I make it a priority to meditate, exercise, take time in nature or enjoy an evening with a beloved.
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“A flower does not compare itself to the flower next to. It just blooms.”
Do you compare yourself with others?
I do, sometimes it's helpful when it inspires growth in me and opens optimal potential within my experiences.
However, there is the danger of comparing myself to others in an unhealthy manner and then I find myself slipping into thoughts and feelings of despair. Like a weed, it can quickly become rooted. I begin to spiral out of alignment with my core connection, necessary growth, and path of least resistance to my optimal life. When this happens, it can contribute to feeling anxiety, depression, shame, envy, leading to self-criticism, lack of self-worth and it rapidly undermines my confidence.
Does this sound familiar?
In the evolutionary framework of survival, having a mental ability to compare our capabilities with others', or to sort out whether we might be acceptable to another social group was necessary for our growth as humans. It makes a lot of sense, especially if the foundation of our decisions are locked into “life or death ” situations.
However, in the present times, this outcome from the past can tip from being helpful to our survival to being unhelpful to our daily life. This learned habit to judge ourselves in comparison to others is hardwired in our brain, a prejudice against ourselves that was trained into us since childhood. We pay more attention to what we see as our own weaknesses about us, we compare and measure ourselves negatively. We often then drop into a pattern of despair and stop all forward progression. The more you put your attention on something, the more it tends to show up giving us evidence that what we think is true.
When we learn to take a more balanced view and consciously look for and acknowledge the positives about us, receive the compliments when they arrive, lean into the affirming praise, we begin to take on a more balanced perspective about ourselves.
We begin to free up our energy and feel better, entering back into "our unique rhythm and flow" with life.
When we commit to learning how to manage unhelpful thoughts, we begin to understand our mind is defending its own prejudice against itself. These are simply thoughts and not facts. You can learn to let these go and redirect your focus building a positive prosperous flow to your optimal life experience.
One way to shift out of the comparing and despairing cycle and come into a more balanced view is to adopt a mindfulness practice. Try this simple conscious breathing practice ~
4/7/8 breathing practice to begin shifting your perspective now.
Find yourself in a relaxed position
Close your eyes
On the exhale -> gently place the tip of your tongue on the roof your mouth behind your two front teeth
Inhale slowly for 4 counts
Hold your breath for 7 counts
Exhale slowly for 8 counts
Repeat for 4 cycles (no more than 4 cycles in one practice)
Click here for a guided MP4 version to help make this a daily practice!
Do you want help with shifting your tendency to compare and create spiral despair thoughts and feelings?
I would love to help you!
For the rest of April through May 15th I’m offering a 60 min intuitive coaching spotlight session to help you let go of your habit to compare and despair. I will assist you in building a new habit that supports growth and positive thinking focused on your optimal life.
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